This little sign is in Latin:
It translates into English: "Love conquers all."
I'm a great believer in messages. I have been seeing and hearing all kinds of messages about love in many places and from many sources. I found this little sign at a thrift store and I've hung in my meditation space.
I recently met a young woman who had chosen to emblazon "Love Conquers All " on her skin. I asked her if I could take a photo and here it is!
Unfortunately, I don't have a photo of this but I saw a woman with "Love Hurts" tattooed on her arm. I really had to stop and consider that. If one believes this then the likelihood they would experience love hurting is probably highly likely and happens regularly. I mean, if you love someone and it hurts, it's probably because the person you are loving, doesn't love you too.
What I've learned most recently is that for a couple in love to have a successful relationship, they have to learn how to speak each other's love language.
The question is: What is each other's love language? What does that mean?
It means that everyone receives & gives love in different ways. By giving and receiving love to each other in those ways most suitable to each other, you help keep each other's "love tank" filled.
Gary Chapman talks about it in his book The Five Love Languages.
According to him, there are 5 different ways that one can show/receive love.
They are:
1-Acts of Service: this means doing something for the other person and it needs to be things they appreciate. It could range from putting gas in the car, taking out the trash, etc.
2-Giving gifts. It can't be just anything. It has to be something they like or have wanted or that you put some thought into finding the gift for them. It's not about the cost. If you give someone something that they hate or what you gave them demonstrates that you didn't really think about them and what they like, then it's not an effective way to show your love. So giving the wrong gift can backfire.
3-Quality Time. This means actually being with the other person. Not just on the commercial breaks or half-time of the football game!It must be real quality time spent with the other.
4-Physical Touch. this might mean sex but it could also be just simply regularly touching, hugging, kissing the other with sincere affection.
5-Words of Affirmation. This could be from telling someone you appreciate them, love them or what a great job they did on a task. It must be sincere and relevant.
If you want more information and to discover what your love language is,
visit his website and do the little survey.
"The rule for all of us is perfectly simple. Do not waste time bothering whether you "love" your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this, we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you love someone,you will presently come to love him (or her!). If you injure someone you dislike, you will find yourself disliking him (or her!) more. If you do him (or her!) a good turn, you will find your disliking him (or her!) less.
---C.S. Lewis
BTW, C. S. Lewis was a British scholar and author who wrote The Chronicles of Narnia. He was also good friends with J.R.R. Tolkien who wrote The Hobbit and Lord of the Rings.
So if there is someone you dislike or hate, you might want to reconsider how you treat them. Oh, BTW, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. That's probably why you see so many stories of people who hate/dislike each other and then come to love/like each other or vice versa. It's often the plot of many Harlequin romances. Guy hates girl or girl hates guy and then eventually they love each other. It's one of the plots in Shakespeare's Much Ado About Nothing.
Here you can watch the film version of Much Ado About Nothing:
"The opposite of love is not hate but indifference." ---Elie Wiesel
Let me complete this post with the quote:
"Love is the master key which opens the gates of happiness."
---Oliver Wendell Holmes
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